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sexualness

It cracks me up, some of these hot-or-not-ers. This guy in particular was a real catch. He said good bye like three times before he finally gave up. Poor guy.

rockjunkie1978:hi
rockjunkie1978:its corey off hot or not

dianarchist:oh, hello corey

rockjunkie1978:whats a nonny?

dianarchist:it’s like, “for the moment”
dianarchist:i thought it was a real phrase, but google doesn’t seem to have heard of it.

rockjunkie1978:what was for the moment?

dianarchist:i live in bangor for the nonny = i live in bangor for now

rockjunkie1978:lol…wow…stick to real english then

dianarchist::Þ

rockjunkie1978:no..no tongue.. i just met u
rockjunkie1978:lol
rockjunkie1978:so u go to college?

dianarchist:no, i graduated 3 years ago
dianarchist:you?

rockjunkie1978:i quit umm… 8 years ago

dianarchist:why’d you quit?

rockjunkie1978:lost my way
rockjunkie1978:are u single?

dianarchist:that’ll happen
dianarchist:yeah

rockjunkie1978:hows that goin for ya?

dianarchist:it works
dianarchist:don’t have a whole lot of choice, do i?

rockjunkie1978:i hear ya
rockjunkie1978:it don’t work for me though
rockjunkie1978:i hate it
rockjunkie1978:judging from your keywords…we got nothing in common?
rockjunkie1978:lol

dianarchist:hmm, maybe. amybe not

rockjunkie1978:i like scrabble and talking to freaks though
rockjunkie1978:lol
rockjunkie1978:and shirtlessness..(on girls) ..is always welcomed
rockjunkie1978:lol
rockjunkie1978:oh and pinup girls

dianarchist:heh.
dianarchist:see? i’m not so different.

rockjunkie1978:probably not
rockjunkie1978:into girls too?

dianarchist:not really

rockjunkie1978:and what did u mean by putting in freaks?
rockjunkie1978:and why r u saying not really if its on there?

dianarchist:what do you mean it’s on there?

rockjunkie1978:I had just said your keywords
rockjunkie1978:where else do u think i’m comming up with all this?

dianarchist:i mean i like freaks. people who aren’t teh same as everyone else.

rockjunkie1978:I like very open minded people if thats anything similar

dianarchist:but i mean why do you think i like girls?

rockjunkie1978:seemed it with keywords like pinup girls.. i’m very open minded so it wasn’t phasing me

dianarchist:thinking girls can be pretty and liking to look at them doesn’t mean i want to date one. or even make out with one. i just think pin-up girls are pretty.

rockjunkie1978:ok ok
rockjunkie1978:doesn’t answer how open minded you are though

dianarchist:that’s kind of a vague question.

rockjunkie1978:no its not.. u either are or not
rockjunkie1978:r u gonna be difficult to get to know ? cause tell me now and i’ll stop

dianarchist:probably to some people i’m too open minded, too trusting, too naive … and to some people i’m too closed-minded, too bigoted, too sheltered.
dianarchist:what do you mean by difficult?

rockjunkie1978:still doesn’t answer me… what do you think you are..not what others think you are.

dianarchist:and you didn’t answer me. what do you define open-minded as? do you mean in my politics, my spirituality, my gender, my sexuality?
dianarchist:you have to be specific.
dianarchist:and don’t you dare say, “all of those thigns”

rockjunkie1978:in general…all the above
rockjunkie1978:lol
rockjunkie1978:well its what i meant

dianarchist:that would not be what i mean by “you ahve to be specific”

rockjunkie1978:people usually define open minded as sexual which is fine but it can mean more

dianarchist:i disagree with your assertion that people “usually” mean sexual, but if that’s what you want the answer to, then i would say that yes, i’m pretty open-minded sexually. whatever gets you your kicks, assuming everything is between consenting adults, is cool with me. it may not do it for me, but i’m not going to tell someone they can’t do it without me.

rockjunkie1978:u can’t disagree.. it meant when i have ever discussed it..its led to sexual reasining… thats my experience..not yours

dianarchist:i can disagree, because you said that people usually mean sexually. you didn’t say, “in my experience, it’s usually meant sexually”.

rockjunkie1978:yes! people who have talked to ME… usually that is the case.

dianarchist:okay, that’s fine. but that’s not what you said. i disagreed with what you said, not with what you (apparently) meant.

rockjunkie1978:u seem too confusing for me

dianarchist: i’m sorry?
dianarchist: is that something i’m supposed to apologize for?

rockjunkie1978:i thought itd go smoother
rockjunkie1978:u seem fairly innocent
rockjunkie1978:yet complexed

dianarchist:complexed?

rockjunkie1978:yes complexed

dianarchist:i’m not sure that’s a word.

rockjunkie1978:u r hard to get to know
rockjunkie1978:u don’t open up with specifics ..at least right away
rockjunkie1978:which causes that hard to get to know u prob

dianarchist:i don’t understand that last sentence.
dianarchist:it’s hard to get to know youwhen you don’t use real words.
dianarchist:probably? probability? probable? proboscus?

rockjunkie1978:…which causes that “hard to get to know you” problem.

dianarchist:ah.

rockjunkie1978:and if u r gonna be sarcastically rude
rockjunkie1978:4get it

dianarchist:i’m not trying to be rude.
dianarchist:i’m just defending myself. you’re acting like we have a communication barrier, but i’m just pointing out that it’s not entirely my fault.

rockjunkie1978:alright
rockjunkie1978:so has the open minded topic come up b4?

dianarchist:no, not really.
dianarchist:it’s just something that you learn about the other person from getting to know them gradually, in my experience.

rockjunkie1978:ok.. i’m too foward then
rockjunkie1978:sorry

dianarchist:nothing to apologize for.

rockjunkie1978:i figured it might be more exciting to get to the more fun topic

dianarchist:and which fun topic would that be?

rockjunkie1978:our open mindedness

dianarchist:huh?

rockjunkie1978:even if it led sexually

dianarchist:so you double-matched me because you want to chat about sex?

rockjunkie1978:*sigh*
rockjunkie1978::-\

dianarchist:no, i’m honestly asking here.

rockjunkie1978:if sexualness came up..fine but it wasn’t a soul reason

dianarchist:i think you mean sole reason.

rockjunkie1978:inner gut reason..figured it was soul… sole to me is the bottom of a shoe

dianarchist:no, when someone talks about a sole reason, they are meaning a single reason.

rockjunkie1978:ahh ok
rockjunkie1978:sorry if it offended u..the sexual part

dianarchist:it didn’t offend me.

rockjunkie1978:ok
rockjunkie1978:seemed it

dianarchist:i just wanted to know if that’s all you wanted this conversation to be about.
dianarchist:or future conversations.

rockjunkie1978:i mix things up
rockjunkie1978:i’m random
rockjunkie1978:didn’t u read my keywords?
rockjunkie1978::(

dianarchist:i didn’t know that was what random meant.
dianarchist:maybe you were interested in Chaos Theory.

rockjunkie1978:whatever that is

dianarchist:right, well. i probably could have figured that from some of your other keywords.
[Ed. Note: This is where I had originally written "Right, well, I probably could have figured that from the "Northern Maine" keyword", but I erased that. That would just be being mean, even if it was what I thought.]
dianarchist:anyway.
dianarchist:i’m getting the impression you’re not too interested in me anymore.

rockjunkie1978:why think that?

dianarchist:this conversation has been a bit … confrontational.

rockjunkie1978:only cause i still feel like i went on a wrong path just because it touched on sexualness

dianarchist:not hardly.

rockjunkie1978:well u know how girls r on sex… too sensative
rockjunkie1978:almost anti-sex

dianarchist:and would you please stop saying “sexualness”? that’s not a word either.
dianarchist:i don’t know any girls who are anti-sex

rockjunkie1978:stop criticing.. u know what i mean

dianarchist:but that’s just my experience.
dianarchist:i won’t stop criticizing. that’s just what i do.
dianarchist:maybe you just know the wrong girls.

rockjunkie1978:r u saying u are sexual?

dianarchist:or maybe you just go about trying to talk about sex in the wrong way.
dianarchist:isn’t everyone sexual, to one degree or another?

rockjunkie1978:i wasn’t trying to talk about sex.. it just led that way
rockjunkie1978:U DON”T GIVE DIRECT ANSWERS! Why did u have to throw in an answer like that.. isn’t everyone…?
rockjunkie1978:i mean c’mon
rockjunkie1978:thats soooo frustrating

dianarchist:well, aren’t they?
dianarchist:i’m just trying to have a conversation with you.

rockjunkie1978:NO! I’ve met many who get really upset or disgusted abut anything sexual!

dianarchist:and how do you know it was them and not the way the conversation you had with them went?

rockjunkie1978:Hell, I was raised in a very close minded family.. and sexual reality  was forbidden in any way or form.. always censored or “swept under the rug”

dianarchist:i think a lot of men think that women aren’t sexual because they’re not porn stars.
dianarchist:it couldn’t have been completely forbidden. obviously your mother had sex at least once, if you were conceived.

rockjunkie1978:Oh my god.. now u are talking drastic.. not porn stars? Excuse me? I wasn’t even thinking that!!
rockjunkie1978:You don’t get anything I say… holy fuck…

dianarchist:You’re not understanding anything I’m saying, either.

rockjunkie1978:just nevermind

dianarchist:are we changing the subject or not chatting any more?

rockjunkie1978:..so we can get into something else u misinterpret?

dianarchist:I’m just asking.
dianarchist:If you’d rather not talk to me anymore, it won’t hurt my feelings.

rockjunkie1978:its like u need a damn example… the sex thing with family censoring it meant like if my parents found a playboy tape of mine as a teenager.. they took it and didn’t talk to me about it at all…. things like that. They avoided any topic that even hinted on sex
rockjunkie1978:i learned all on my own
rockjunkie1978:my mind soaked it up from anything
rockjunkie1978:my mind wandered
rockjunkie1978:it opened up in turn
rockjunkie1978:so it made me more open minded than most

dianarchist:So don’t you think that it’s possible that since you didn’t get much a sexual education from your parents, the sources you did use were less than reliable? And that because of that, maybe you don’t know the things to say to girls (I’m not talking about me, here, I’m talking about all the girls you say are anti-sex)?

rockjunkie1978:no because I’ve had more friends that are girls and I have a sister so I know how to not talk to girls when it comes to sex. Most guys online for example..since u need those… come right out and say stuff like..you’re hott ..we should have sex or whatnot…
rockjunkie1978:have NEVER done that
rockjunkie1978:*I have never done that

dianarchist:Well, there’s a point for you, then.
dianarchist:And why do you keep acting like examples are bad?

rockjunkie1978:I was saying you were anti-sexual since its not like u were bringing things up

dianarchist:I’m anti-sexual because I didn’t talk about sex in the first fifteen minutes of chatting with you?

rockjunkie1978:*sigh* THATS NOT WHAT I”M MEANING!

dianarchist:THEN WHAT DO YOU MEAN?

rockjunkie1978:54get it
rockjunkie1978:bye

dianarchist:bye

rockjunkie1978:ya..obviously u could care less
rockjunkie1978:so easy to say bye right back

dianarchist:what?
dianarchist:you said bye, so i figured you meant you were leaving?
dianarchist:am i supposed to say, “No, please, don’t go! I was wrong!”

rockjunkie1978:i told you already that the sex thing was NOT intentional
rockjunkie1978:but!
rockjunkie1978:since it came up.. u act all offensive l
rockjunkie1978:and that tells me that even if it was days later..months.. ud still be a prude sexually
rockjunkie1978:Now if I purposly brought up sex.. i could understand the offensivness
rockjunkie1978:but fuck! I told you it was intentional

dianarchist:What kind of logic is that?

rockjunkie1978:and u know that!

dianarchist:That’s like saying if a girl doesn’t put out on the first date, she never will.

rockjunkie1978:you were the one that wanted to know specifics on open minded when all i wanted was in general

dianarchist:Or like saying if you take her out for italian, that’s all she’ll ever eat.

rockjunkie1978:u honestly think i’m that dumb to believ that theory u just said?
rockjunkie1978:who the fuck do u think u r talkng to

dianarchist:And do you honestly think I’m dumb enough to believe that you think I’m a prude just because you THOUGHT I was offended by talk about sex?

rockjunkie1978:u talk like sex is a topic or action that does not interests u

dianarchist:What did I say that makes you think that?

rockjunkie1978:EVERYTHING
rockjunkie1978:duhh..

dianarchist:Everything?
dianarchist:What about this? “yes, i’m pretty open-minded sexually. whatever gets you your kicks, assuming everything is between consenting adults, is cool with me.”

rockjunkie1978:that just told me i won’t be phased if i like something that u don’t.
rockjunkie1978:but do u think i wanna talk to u or anyone wh don’t agree or like something i like
rockjunkie1978:as if
rockjunkie1978:what fun is that!?

dianarchist:I don’t understand that last part.
dianarchist:Are you asking me if I think you want to talk to me?

rockjunkie1978:*who

Evidently he didn’t want to talk to me, because that was the end of it.